Write your love letter to an already chosen question for 10 minutes. Write for the full 10 minutes. Use the hot pen method. Describe your feelings in a way that will be relatable to your spouse.

Exchange your love letter when you get together silently and lovingly, as this is a gift of yourselves to one another. Read each other's love letter twice silently. The first time read for the head. The second reading is for the heart. Go beyond the words and try to absorb the person and his/her feelings.

Dialogue after you have read the letters twice. Decide which of you expressed the stronger feeling(s). Dialogue on the feeling(s) for 10 minutes. Once you have exhausted all the ways to describe the feeling(s) or 10 minutes is up the dialogue should be brought to closure.

Select a question for the next day's dialogue now. Do not wait or it may not happen. Choose a question about things that are pertinent to your relationship. Take turns choosing questions.